It is not infrequent that I enter a home that is overtly feminine. This is of course A ok if it is the residence of a single adult, or a couple that both prefer for that style. However, if this is not the case, one partner may be left feeling unrepresented by a magenta and lavender floral printed sofa, and baby pink carpet. Both parties should be reflected in the overall style of a home’s interior décor, unless it has been previously agreed otherwise.
Certainly, if only one person in a partnership is handling the selection of decorations it will be natural for them to lean towards their own style. And some will argue, if the other person is not participating in the act of selecting the family couch, or household carpet, then they should not have a voice in the matter. But, this can lead to unhappiness, on both sides, as one displeased member of a pair will undoubtedly impact the other.
The answer is to strive for a something more gender neutral. While I am also familiar with the scenario in my own life where a spouse says they want to have nothing to do with the choices regarding the furnishings or decorations in our abode, I also am familiar enough with his likes and dislikes to know how to insert his vote by proxy. Doing so is in everyone’s best interest, and makes the best sense in the long run. And though I still long to impulsively buy what I want so desperately, and then deal with the consequences upon its arrival, I acknowledge it is not all about me, it’s about us.